A quick update on my single guy dilemma.
So I had admittedly been dating three different women simultaneously. I have so far been able to keep the relationships non-sexual and I think that works for me for now since it allows for an easy “phasing out” if I think that the relationship isn’t going to go anywhere or is headed for the friend zone. The phasing out stage has already struck… Its time to bring in some new subs:
Subbing in for the Inexperienced College Student we have America’s Next Top Model. America’s Next Top Model is a gorgeous woman. She is the kind of woman you would see on runways in France. She has a flawless, mahogany, chocolate complexion and is very tall and athletic (I met her playing in my soccer league). I am just not sure I can date a woman who is taller than me (we may be the same height without heels). I know, I know… it really shouldn’t matter… but my fragile, male ego is taking a beating here.
Next we have Urban Baby Mama gradually moving into the friend zone (her daughter is entirely too fond of me, and I of her, to phase her out completely and she is fun to hang out with). Replacing her will be Recently Divorced. Recently Divorced is physically exactly the type of girl I would normally date. She is petite, pretty, and girly… and she is a dancer! I have always wanted to date a dancer. They have nice bodies and are… ummm… flexible… I am not sure about the whole divorce thing. Is there a good reason her ex made a run for it? Hmmm.
30 Year Old Virgin gets to stay. The whole cultural similarity thing is way too comfortable for me to ignore and I just realized she has some really nice legs. Legs happen to be my favourite body part on a woman, hence my extreme attraction to dancers and track athletes.
So I have some fresh legs in the game. Play ball!

and the Dilemma is? cause I really don’t see it
By: owen on July 11, 2007
at 1:01 pm
So I have to mention that I dance….
Anyhoo…isn’t it funny how these things get complicated when you get older…
People always ask me why im single, in a very ’sorry for me’ voice, what they don’t get is the amount of choice there is out there, its sort of like going into starbucks and staring at the menu for an hour…..
Im single, because Im still staring at the menu…
By: Cranky Putz on July 11, 2007
at 2:31 pm
Oh and Im petite, and have nice legs, ok ok ill stop now!
By: Cranky Putz on July 11, 2007
at 2:32 pm
The only dilemma is see is that you’re spreading yourself too thin. Oh and you have 3 women and you’re not getting any.
Sidenote….I hate it when single mothers introduce their kids to guys they’re dating. Growing up thinking mommy had a lot “friends” might do some damage to a child’s psychy. Not to mention what if the kid gets attached. *sigh*
By: Nia on July 11, 2007
at 3:17 pm
@owen: I know. Sometimes I think to myself “… and what’s the problem now?”… but Nia said it. I get spread too thin.
@cranky: So you dance, are petite, have nice legs, and you’re single? I need phone number(s), SSN, and vital stats please… LOL@ “staring at the menu!” So does that mean that its ok to get an appetizer before going for the main course?
@Nia: Yuh right about the spreading thin part! Sometimes I feel like I need that singular focus to really get to know a woman… and I am more comfortable doing it that way.
As for you side note. I kind of agree… but its hard for them not to do it. But yeah… when yuh stop dating the mother you have to stop dating the kid too. Its rough!
By: fiyah on July 11, 2007
at 6:45 pm
How tall is tall? How tall are you?
By: Ms. Complexity on July 11, 2007
at 8:39 pm
LMAO @ “have 3 women and you’re not getting any”.
Well, here comes the Voice of Reason: as long as these three women know that you’re playing the field and they could be phased out at any time, then you’re golden.
Hopefully none of them think they’re the only person you’re seeing, ‘cos I think that model chick could take you.
P.S. Why do you have to assume that Recently Divorce’s ex was the one who made a run for it? Hmmm, very telling.
Finally, can you please update your link that you use to respond to Blogspot blogs…please have it point here, so I can just click and come thru instead of clicking to Blogspot, clicking on your blog, then clicking on the link in Moving Day.
Thanks in advance.
(Mi back, mi back, mi back, mi blood***** back! Hehe)
By: How To Lose Friends & Alienate People on July 11, 2007
at 9:55 pm
@complexity: Well I am 5″10′… and she is at least 5″10′ or 5″11′. What yuh think? Dat can work?
@SE: Yuh sih you! Ok.. I changed it so that the link from blogspot should redirect here. Tell mih if it works.
And I have no explicitly told any of them that I am dating other women … but I do make mention of other “friends” that I hang out with. I think thats all they need to know.
P.S. I didn’t assume… she told me.
By: fiyah on July 12, 2007
at 4:34 am
So other than the 30 yr old virgin…do the other two wonder why you dont want to “sleep with” any them??? It is really refreshing to hear of a guy who doesnt have it as their primary focus to jump into a womans pants….nuff respect due!!!!
)..
However, I hope we will be among the first to know when your dry spell is over (arent you a bit nervous about the first performance after the dry spell
BTW i am liking how “recently divorced” is sounding….as SE says maybe she is the one who ran…..
By: marangand on July 12, 2007
at 8:38 am
re the taller woman you could always start wearing heels
. ok yea that wasnt funny lol
dancers are nice,i once dated an aerobics instructor. strangely wasnt as much fun as i had envisioned.
By: jdid on July 12, 2007
at 9:05 am
Women do not assume, if you mention other friends the first thing they think is friends not “friends.” So shame on you. Oh and I’m going to continue not to be offended by the tall chick being over looked.
Vive la tall women!!!
By: Nia on July 12, 2007
at 9:04 pm
all I can say is good luck
By: owen on July 13, 2007
at 4:01 pm
when the hell are you going to move on to the next three…. there is no dilemma …you just playing A. Hitchcock grrrrr
By: Minoramp on July 13, 2007
at 9:50 pm
you need one more dude one more…..
By: Minoramp on July 13, 2007
at 9:52 pm
It will work, brother. Let’s just hope she doesn’t bore you to death.
By: Ms. Complexity on July 14, 2007
at 12:14 am
P.S. I want this dilemma…want a man in every city. High time the sistas got some revenge.
By: Ms. Complexity on July 14, 2007
at 12:14 am
This is definitely not the way a young man should be behaving. Is it beyond you all to encourage him to be a gentleman?
By: pioneer on July 14, 2007
at 3:43 pm
Um, Fiyah, I’m not buying it…stop playing games…I don’t get it, and then its these same men who wonder why a chick is crazy and doing all kinds of evil shite after they’ve strung her along for a while…
Play ball, mi friend…sorry fi yuh when game over.
By: How To Lose Friends & Alienate People on July 15, 2007
at 11:11 am
Damn… so much stick for not even playing the field (I am more like in the stands at the game eating a hot dog). I will address this in my next blog! By George I will!
By: fiyah on July 15, 2007
at 11:15 pm
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By: Fruition « The Fiyah Place on July 17, 2007
at 12:18 am
Damn, after reading all those comments I’ve now forgotten what I wanted to write.
Lemme think. Oh yeah. 30 Yo Virgin?????!!!!! Wow!
By: Gela on July 26, 2007
at 10:15 pm
I think u are so full of it!
By: A on July 28, 2007
at 9:19 pm
three woman at the same time? no sex? I would have left a long time ago! Also…i am curious about what you say to them…you must be lying to 2 when you are with one…..I want to know what’s so special about you that you can get 3 women….
By: jamaicangirl2007 on August 2, 2007
at 3:38 pm
@jamaicangirl: So you can only hang out with a guy who you are having sex with?
There really isn’t anything special about me… Like I said… I just HANG OUT with them. You know… movies… dinner… dinner and movies… the odd night out at the club or some live music at a lounge. Nothing serious.
By: fiyah on August 6, 2007
at 10:36 am
5′ 10???????????? somehow u seemed taller in ur pics…..
By: Irie Diva on November 3, 2007
at 12:20 am
I have gotten that before Diva. I seem taller in pictures and shorter in person. Its a curse I tell you…
By: fiyah on November 4, 2007
at 1:16 am